Rainbow Psychology and Therapy Services

Therapy and psychological services for individuals, couples and professionals

Are you experiencing problems related to your emotional health, relationships or perhaps a major life change? Maybe you live rurally or for some reason it is hard to find a therapist or psychologist in your area.

I am a New Zealand registered Clinical Psychologist with 25 years of experience working with a range of mental health and addiction issues as well as with trauma survivors.  I work with people who identify as heterosexual and with LGBTQ and have a passion for gender issues, sexuality and alternative relationship structures such as polyamory, open relationships or other forms of ethical non-monogamy. I work with individuals, couples and more, providing online therapy. I am also available for consultation and supervision with health professionals

A Tower of Stones
 

What To Expect

In order to find out if we are a good match for each other and with online work, I offer a free one-off online 30 minute appointment via Zoom. I will ask you about yourself, your situation and what you need. This is also an opportunity for you to find out about me and how I work so that we can decide if we are going to work together.


Here is a video clip with some background about me and more information about how I work

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxhiVpZLJtk&feature=youtu.be

 
 

Helpful Information and Resources

At the Tip of Your Fingers

Open Relationships/Polyamory/Consensual Non Monogamy, Resources

More Than Two is both a book and a website about Ethical Non Monogamy and Polyamory by Franklin Veaux.

Note: Franklin Veaux appears to be the subject of reports of abusive behaviour. I can't comment on this. You can make up your mind about reading the book or using the resources:


    https://www.morethantwo.com/

    A communication guide for people in both monogamous and non monogamous relationships


    https://medium.com/better-humans/how-to-master-communication-in-open-polyamorous-and-other-relationships-c5943e09396c

    Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and

    Sustaining Open Relationship, 2008

    by Tristian Taormino

    https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X

    The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventure


    https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379

    Love Lessons from open relationships, 

    kathy Slaughter:


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9cVPDSHSaW4&t=97s

    Polyamory, Leon Feingold:


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FtdsZ8B7JQY&t=11s

    Emotional Literacy:


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3q3WOrs8kAM


    Polyamory for Us:

    http://polyfor.us/

    Polysecure. Jessica Fern:

    An application of attachment theory and ideas to polyamorous relationships including practical help for building security in polyamorous relationships.

    https://www.scribd.com/book/471290783/Polysecure-Attachment-Trauma-and-Consensual-Nonmonogamy?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google_search&utm_campaign=Google_DSA_NB_Other&utm_device=c&utm_source=adwords&utm_campaign=1048144232&utm_term=&utm_medium=g&utm_content=453207711062&gclid=CjwKCAiAhbeCBhBcEiwAkv2cY7aev3BGlXVznEZnuc946t5iPndRUuplOtkW_AG-Hy3syTp_tnIWjhoCwIYQAvD_BwE

    Negotiating Interactions with Metamours:


    https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/negotiating-interactions-with-metamours-a-practical-guide

    Desire, sexuality, infidelity, love and relationships

    • Esther Perel is a couple therapist and author. 

    https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved/discussion


    https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship

    • Research about sexuality and desire:

    https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/18/magazine/sex-brain-scans-men-women.html

    • Dan Savage: Sex Advice and conversations about sexuality, monogamy, LGBT issues and relationships:

    https://www.savagelovecast.com/about

    • ​OMGYes, Female Sexual Pleasure:

    https://www.omgyes.com/?gclid=CjwKCAjwmrn5BRB2EiwAZgL9osGM5VJmmjWoMlfzNi258nemBwRDMZUcDkrF9ghSbGlsCJQ1zbBQxhoC4z4QAvD_BwE

    • Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire, Pam Costa:

    https://www.youtube.com/watchv=0Sn_UhcXZm4

    Come as you are by, Emily Nagoski

    https://www.emilynagoski.com/home

    Ethical and Feminist Pornography

    https://brightdesire.com/